Restoring Yourself

Life has a funny way of saying…”oh yeah, if you thought that was bad, wait until you see THIS!” We all have examples of personal tragedies, unexpected disappointments or professional ups and downs.

Yet sometimes, life comes through in a big way. Life did just that for me this past weekend. 

I got married on Saturday. 

It was beautiful, elegant, romantic, and we were surrounded by family and friends from near and far.

The ups and downs of life are not only natural, they allow for perspective when the really amazing things happen.

I am truly blessed…and restored.

I hope you have the opportunity to restore yourself too.

Thank you for being here.

Jay

Descendants and Ancestors

We are part of a much larger moment than simply the one we are living in right now. We are descendants of those that came before us. And we will become the ancestors of those yet to come in a long distant future.

Have you ever considered that?

What then, have we learned from those that came before us? Their struggles, failures, and successes should inform how we behave today, right? Whether it’s our personal journey, or our professional one, the past should be a powerhouse source of data that informs how we move forward.

But does it, really?

I offer today that it rarely informs what we do, particularly in the workplace. How many examples of failed leadership exist and yet the need for ‘leadership development’ and ‘coaching’ is stronger than ever? 

Have we…have I…learned nothing so far? I can only imagine what our ancestors think of us. Are they not shaking their heads wondering why we continue to follow in the footsteps of leadership arrogance, considering people as ‘assets’ and ‘resources’ instead of unique individuals that with the proper support and encouragement could be transformative members of an incredible organization?

Heavy things to consider. Even heavier to think about how this rinse and repeat world of work can be shifted in the proper direction.

                                          “Let us be the ancestors, 

                        our descendants will thank”

                                                 - Winona Laduke

I hope that one day when we are all considered ancestors that our future descendants will look back and thank us for beginning to break the oft repeated cycle of not learning from history. 

Perhaps it is finally time that radical new thinking about work begins to take hold, and a new foundation is put in place for those that will follow us?

What do you think?

Thanks for being here.

Jay

Our (My) Prioritization Problem

Is it all about work? 

Is it all about fun? 

Is it all about pouring ourselves into others both personally and professionally? 

Is it all about skating our way through life and hoping for the best? 

Is it all about building workplace cultures that are bullet proof? 

Is it all about being so short-sighted for gain that we lose sight of the big picture? 

Does financial performance equate to leadership ability?

When do our values come into play? 

What about kindness as a leadership competency?

So many questions…

…what do you think?

Thanks for being here.

Jay

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Ascension

Personal demons. Managing anxiety. Family demands. Professional pressure. Community expectations. Imposter syndrome.

How do you rise above it all? Perhaps rising above is not the right phrase…maybe it’s just managing it all? Even that feels like a stretch sometimes…at least it does for me.

Just getting through can be a victory.

How do you find your way? Is it faith, family, friends, colleagues, or others? Maybe it’s just making the time for solitude and peace?

All of those work for me at different times for different reasons.

No one ever said the journey would be easy, but with the right tools to keep moving forward it can be far more positive than we sometimes allow ourselves to believe. In fact, it can be quite beautiful. Use the resources around you to help find your way.

Thanks for being here.

Jay

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The To Do List Battle

Honestly, my To Do list has become unwieldy. While the thinking that we should have three or four key action items each day makes sense, it seems to be out of touch with my reality of my workload. I’m blessed to have a job with heavy organizational responsibilities; and what comes with that is a long list of things that need to be accomplished.

This isn’t another “whoa is me, I’m so busy” post…rather…I’d like to examine how I organize my work, and hopefully, to learn how you’ve resolved this dilemma.

The List

I use Microsoft’s To Do as my app of choice. It’s the former Wunderlist tool which I loved. It meets my needs, is fairly flexible, and helps me at least understand all of the things I need to get accomplished both personally and professionally. A bonus is that I have access regardless of device (iPad, iPhone, MacBook.) I don’t use paper anymore…haven’t for nearly twenty years.

Do you use an app? If so, which one? What’s good / bad about it? What have you learned?

The Quantity of To Dos

What makes your list? Do you collapse items under an umbrella category (I do a LOT of this); or, does each action item get its own unique place (which can be rewarding when they are completed and ‘disappear’)? 

Shared To Dos

Last category…do you share To Do lists with your colleagues? I do not…and candidly not for any particular reason. With slack, Teams and other tools I’m not sure a separate and shared To Do list makes sense.

Thoughts?

Enough for now…I have to get back to my list.

Thanks for being here.

Jay

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Becoming ‘Vincible’

It’s been a pretty rough week. We all go through them; but for me, this one has been particularly difficult. No need for details here…just know I hope none of you have to travel the road I am on.

One of my biggest takeaways, and candidly a bit humbling for me, is that no one is invincible. Of course I know that on an intellectual level. But we humans don’t necessarily operate on an intellectual level all the time.

A simple note…when life seems to be moving smoothly in a certain direction remember that the universe can throw a curve ball when we least expect it.

I’m incredibly appreciative for the love and support around me…and I hope you know I am here for you too if you ever need someone.

Thanks for being here.

Jay

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Ruined

Does a hard day or series of hard days at work ruin you?

Does a challenging period of time with your relationships ruin you?

Do the social media posts from others ‘living their best lives’ 24/7/365 ruin you?

Have your bad choices in life ruined you?

I have good news.

No, they haven’t ruined you. None of it has. Of course bad days and bad choices are stressful, and sometimes as we process those circumstances in our heads we become overwhelmed. 

That’s normal.

What other people choose to share publicly has nothing to do with you. 

The one truth to focus on through it all is that you are absolutely not ruined. 

If you need to talk, reach out at anytime. I’m a good listener.

Thanks for being here.

Jay

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